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| Note Found in a Bottle (Wsp Readers Club) | 
enlarge | Author: Susan Cheever Publisher: Washington Square Press Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:   (35 reviews) Sales Rank: 516566
Languages: English (Original Language), English (Unknown), English (Published) Media: Paperback Edition: 1 Number Of Items: 1 Pages: 208 Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.6 Dimensions (in): 8.3 x 5.3 x 0.6
ISBN: 0671040731 Dewey Decimal Number: 362.292092 EAN: 9780671040734 ASIN: 0671040731
Publication Date: January 1, 2000 Availability: Usually ships in 1-2 business days
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Born into a world ruled and defined by the cocktail hour, in which the solution to any problem could be found in a dry martini or another glass of wine, Susan Cheever led a life both charmed and damned. She and her father, the celebrated writer John Cheever, were deeply affected and troubled by alcohol. Addressing for the first time the profound effects that alcohol had on her life, in shaping of her relationships with men and in influencing her as a writer, Susan Cheever delivers an elegant memoir of clear-eyed candor and unsettling immediacy. She tells of her childhood obsession with the niceties of cocktails and all that they implied -- sociability, sophistication, status; of college days spent drinking beer and cheap wine; of her three failed marriages, in which alcohol was the inescapable component, of a way of life that brought her perilously close to the edge. At once devastating and inspiring, Note Found in a Bottle offers a startlingly intimate portrait of the alcoholic's life -- and of the corageous journey to recovery.
Amazon.com Review "My grandmother Cheever taught me how to embroider, how to say the Lord's Prayer, and how to make a perfect dry martini." Alcoholism seems to have been a family tradition among the Cheevers. The posthumous publication of pater John Cheever's journals revealed both his fondness for the bottle and his bisexuality; daughter Susan has gone her father one better, publishing a memoir of promiscuity and drunkenness while still alive. In Note in a Bottle, she leaves little to the imagination as she chronicles her career, her many sexual escapades and, of course, her drinking. A typical passage goes something like this: Warren knows San Francisco so well it's like being in his own house to be there with him. He took me to a bar with wooden booths. We ate delicious chowder and drank white wine. He drank vodka and grapefruit; it was lunchtime but I could see he had just gotten up. I wondered who he had been in bed with. I drank more white wine.... "I still love you," he said, and he kissed me. I was late for dinner with Calvin. The early sections of Cheever's memoir, in which she describes the culture of drinking in the '50s and '60s, are quite interesting; the problem is (to rewrite Tolstoy), all unhappy drunks are the same. Once Cheever shifts her focus to her own personal catalog of cocktails and dysfunctional affairs, she becomes interchangeable with any number of other alcoholics who have trod that slippery slope before her. And as the details of her various messy marriages or affairs (or both) with Robert, with Calvin, with Warren, et. al pile up, one finds oneself wishing for a little less history and a little more mystery. Still, Note in a Bottle contains some astute observation delivered in Susan Cheever's appealingly ironic prose style and some interesting insights into the rarified world of the literati that she inhabits. --Margaret Prior
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  Alcoholism is invisible November 23, 2007 3 out of 3 found this review helpful
"Even in my family, where God knows we have experienced enough alcoholism to have drawn a few conclusions and recognize a few signs, alcoholism is still invisible".
This memoir is an excellent example of alcoholism in women which is different than alcoholism in men.
Women are more vulnerable to alcohol and develop alcoholism drinking much smaller quantities than men. The line of alcoholism is invisible. So, when Susan Cheever drank in pace with her father and then with her husband, she was already an alcoholic.
She describes how alcohol is woven into the fabric of her life from the beginning. "My grandmother Cheever taught me how to embroider, how to say the Lord's Prayer, and how to make a perfect dry martini."
Alcoholism is a genetic vulnerability. "I grew up with a secret. My family did have a skeleton in the closet. ... But the real family secret was not my father's bisexuality, it was the drinking."
Alcoholism has at it's core a dysfunctional relationship between the drinker and the drink. This dysfunction is invisible to the drinker. "If you told me that the problems in my life came from my breathing, it would have made as much sense to me if you said the problems in m life came from my drinking." "Even when my father took me to AA meetings, I never dreamed that I might be an alcoholic." "I didn't know that I had to stop drinking. I didn't know that I could stop drinking."
Susan Cheever lived the life of alcoholism... superficial, filled with shame, unpredictable. It is a life that looks for solutions outside of oneself ~ money, sex, manipulation. She describes this in her life.
What is missing is an internal life. A woman loses herself in the process. "And somehow, I spent all of those years searching, searching for someplace where I did belong..." When she develops this internal life, she does so the only way it can be done... "I don't understand God; I just believe in God".
In the end she "gets" it... it is the "getting" it that is unique for each individual and too personal to describe. "It seems my belief in God should take up more space in this book, but it is intensely private and truly beyond my ability to describe."
I feel this book is a worthwhile read.
  Annoying memoir of drinking April 29, 2005 You know when you're in AA meetings and there's that person who just blah-blah-blahs aimlessly about herself and everyone else is bored? That's fine for an AA meeting--it's important for us to process out loud in that forum--but it's not fine for a memoir. It's not that there is no value in this book, in the way that hearing other alcoholics' stories has value...but where is the craft? What is Cheever saying that someone else hasn't said better? This writer would never have been a writer if not for her famous name. Or, maybe if she hadn't had the famous name to fall back on, she might have actually developed her craft. As memoirs of drinking lives go, skip this one and try Augsten Burroughs' DRY or Caroline Knapp's wonderful DRINKING: A LOVE STORY.
  Post - it in a Bottle February 27, 2004 5 out of 8 found this review helpful
Though "Note" is neither deep or introspective, it was easy to read with occasional excellent lines. My favorite (which made the whole book worth it for me) was "It's not that I had a miserable childhood -- I didn't -- it's that I was a miserable child." The memoir is interesting in its very ordinariness: except for her father's fame which gave her access to more wealthy and famous people, her life, her affairs, her alcoholism and her recovery were unremarkable. Though I enjoyed this book, it was more like an after-school special on the dangers of alcohol (you will forget things, have big fights, and sleep with many men) than an illustration of alcoholism or even the life of Susan Cheever. She admits some things, such as God, and apparently her feelings about her father, are "too private" to explain. Perhaps so, but then why write a memoir?
  Misleading title June 6, 2000 7 out of 17 found this review helpful
In reviewing a book, one must have a basis from which to start. In considering Cheever's book, I cannot fathom where to start a conclusive review because the entire title of the novel is completely misleading. My intent in reading this autobiography was to learn more about an alcoholic firsthand, in her own words. Unfortunately, there was very little substantial material written about alcoholism, its effects, repercussions, etc. In fact, had that title been different I would have probably enjoyed this bland book about a woman's life tinged with alcohol, among many other things which were given just as much attention in the book. Therefor I find it useless to judge this book because it is based on so many vacant concepts.
  Just plain bad June 3, 2000 16 out of 19 found this review helpful
The autobiographical drinking story has been done many times before, so the subject matter here is nothing new.What's so striking different about this book is that there is almost no self-reflection. It's just a compilation of what Susan Cheever drank, the places Susan Cheever drank, the men Susan Cheeer screwed while she was drunk. We'd get much the same result of Susan had gone to Kitty Kelley and asked "Will you write a shallow, vapid account of my life?" Note Found In a Bottle is self-absored and boringly so. I imagine what keeps Susan awake at night is that most people have found this account of her drinking years Not Very Interesting. She earnestly wants the reader to believe her life was glamourous, but in fact it's just an average drunk story. I guess there are worse ways to spend (money) than to throw it away on this book....but not many.
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