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| Love Smart: Find the One You Want--Fix the One You Got | 
 enlarge | Author: Dr. Phil Mcgraw
Publisher: Free Press
Category: Book
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Avg. Customer Rating:  (105 reviews)
Sales Rank: 317922
Languages: English (Original Language), English (Unknown), English (Published)
Media: Paperback
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 304
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.6
Dimensions (in): 8.3 x 5.5 x 1.1
ISBN: 074329243X
Dewey Decimal Number: 646.77
EAN: 9780743292436
ASIN: 074329243X
Publication Date: December 26, 2006
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 A Guide for Singles looking for Mr. Right February 13, 2008
2 out of 2 found this review helpful
Since I'm not interested in dating and my husband doesn't want to be fixed, I had to ask myself why I was reading a book about single women looking for Mr. Right. I guess I am curious and I wanted to know what Dr. Phil's "Fix the One You Got" entailed. To be frank, this is not a book for married couples who are seeking a more harmonious relationship. This is strictly a book for women who want to find Mr. Right.
Dr. Phil spends a great deal of time explaining why you are worthy and what you should do to capture a man's attention. What are men really thinking during the dating game and how can you become the woman they can't stop thinking about? This book begins with some pretty amusing letters about dating and then takes an especially honest look at self-esteem issues.
The chapters on how men think are very revealing. You can even amuse yourself by writing down all the qualities you'd like in a dream man. I was amazed at how many qualities my husband actually had once I wrote out my list.
Overall, Dr. Phil gives some sage advice to women who want to play the dating game with a sense of purpose. There are "icebreaker questions" to use in any situation and lots of hints and tips for being a winner in the game of love.
So despite the title of this book it is mostly for single women who are trying to understand male behavior. If you are already married then this may not be the book you are looking for and you may want to buy All You Need Is Love and Other Lies About Marriage: A Proven Strategy to Make Your Marriage Work, from a Leading Couples Therapist.
~The Rebecca Review
 Impractical at Best November 11, 2007
1 out of 5 found this review helpful
I purchased this book in a mall bookstore. I have the hardcover version. I was glad that he offered some much needed warnings about meeting people through personal ads, and the internet. Some people need that, and from the thousands of ads I've read over the years, a whole lot of people are using this methold, without thinking through what they are really looking for. But I feel that the core of phil's system is not new. He does exhort people-and I feel that this applies to either gender, to not try and mold onesself to mr anybody. Good for you, phil! THAT has needed to be said for a very very long time. Other that that, he spends the remainder of the book, telling seekers that what ever kind of person you are looking for, be where they are. Well, I'm a DIY wannabe, and I love bldg supply places and the like. But very honestly, I ain't got TIME to spend my few free saturdays, or what little free time I have, running from one bldg supply or electronic bric a brac store to another, or, for that matter, the engineering books at the public library, hoping MAYBE to meet the right person. the basis of any relationship I would want to have, would have to start with very similar spiritual beliefs, and the type of church I go to, very few decent single men come near, let alone stay there. I did "fall over' the right person, in a big library in california, as a young woman. I could tell the guy was very very interested, and when it happened to me, I was entirely stunned, having had an ugly duckling mentarlity all my life. Only prob was-he came along two weeks after I had gotten married, to somebody I wasn't in love with(sigh). Welcome to armerican life kids.
 True remedy to lost souls September 28, 2007
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
Dr. Phil did an excellent job here in pointing out what is wrong and how to fix the problem in Man love woman-Woman loves man relationship. If followed, love and happiness is ahead of you.
Dr. Israel King, Ph D, Author of How To Keep A Man
Love Smart Can Make You Smarter At Love... September 9, 2007
3 out of 3 found this review helpful
I like Phil McGraws books because his psychological insights are straight to the point. This book is no different. I like how he gets to the root of the problems with women's need for a man when he says that many women seek marriage and love in a state of desperation. He says that the right way to approach any relationship is as if it's a game. Because finding love and romancing are all games and getting serious about them not only spoils the mood but also chase the man away. He says that a woman should keep in mind that she doesn't need a man to be happy. If you think that you do need a man to be happy then you are putting unnecessary pressure on yourself and are probably on your way to self-sabotage. So the first step to getting the relationship you want is to take a `brutal look at yourself'. Know what you want and what is holding you back and you are more likely to succeed.
Another very blunt insight of Phil's is that many women are looking for a fairytale like marriage. They walk around expecting their man to fulfill every little dream trait they can imagine. If a man doesn't carry each one of the women's projections she will often move on. Phil says that this is the wrong way to approach seeking a mate because no man will fulfill all your expectations. The best way to approach a relationship is to find a man who encompasses at least 80% of the qualities you seek in a man and have at least the potential to learn the rest and that is good enough. Relationships, like life, are about compromise. Rather than chasing the picture perfect image, take what's available within reason. Then build a relationship.
My favorite chapter in the book is probably number 6 called " Your Guy Q". Phil Mcgraw states that a woman should not expect her man to fit female logic. A man is a man. They are physically and socially designed to be different than women. To expect a man to behave like a woman and understand your every nuance is unrealistic and you will be setting yourself up for disappointment.
Then he provides insight into male psychology through the general misconceptions that women have about men. For example the idea that men are all about avoiding commitment (not necessarily), they grow up to be lie their fathers and compare all women to their mothers (yes, parents are important to understanding your man). Men also feel a need to be the leader in a relationship and will often think it is weak to acknowledge needs and will also feel a little insecure around strong willed women as they feel less needed.
He also provided outlines of other personality traits of guys including men to beware of ( such as sex fiends or accomplishment braggers who just want to use women), then goes into tips and techniques to meet men and have a good time. He also covers the kinds of questions to ask to get to know him, how to handle your own expectations and much more. This book is a must read for any woman who wants a long lasting and loving relationship.
Honest and Real September 1, 2007
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
This book is a true honest book about men, and why women don't have them. You can learn here what you need to understand about men, yourself, and how and why you don't attract people to yourself. It was a lesson in self-confidence and helps you look at yourself and what you reveal to the world. Expectations are a wonderful thing, but be realistic, and be who you are. This is a great book for anyone looking to understand themselves better, and how they can use what they have to improve instead of changing themselves. Dr. Phil is an entertaining writer too so it's an easy read.
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